You probably haven’t heard of this day which happens tomorrow (November the 19th). With this article I was wondering whether to go down the “justifying International Men’s Day by pointing out shocking statistics of male suicide, domestic violence against men and cancer among men” route, or whether to exhort fellow biological males to find fulfillment not in violence but in a healthy concern for diversity in ones local area, but I’ve written many very serious articles lately, and this is the wroclaw warbler, so I thought I’d concentrate on something less serious and talk about positive male role models or things that I consider to be vaguely male.
For positive male role models are important. As regularly readers will probably know of me by now, a healthy sense of criticism regarding the self or the social group that one belongs to is important, but a sense that there is a sense of goodness to fundamental parts of identity is also important at the same time. While it is important to give attention to the excellent things done by many women to overcome the imbalance over centuries, let’s not forget the kick-arse stuff that many men do.
So, for me, three people/things.
First of all, Bruce Dickinson. He is one of my favourite singers. Iron Maiden produce a music that provides a good outlet for the aggression that comes from testosterone and watching them live is for me the culmination of evolution (I am not exaggerating here). He is a singer with an impressive range and excellent technique. That he is operatically trained leads me to also use operatic methods in teaching singing to my clients.
Secondly, well, not a person but an activity, bird-watching. Birds are of course both male and female, and an activity or inanimate thing cannot have a sex (despite what various New Age people will tell you). However, I will offer that men face less pressure to be social, and while bird-watching is better with others it can be done alone. I find it dead calming to be quiet as I try to watch a bird, trying to work out what it is, just me, the sea, the rocks, the air and whatever this bloody bird is. Whether men face less pressure to be sociable is true or not, bird-watching is ace.
Thirdly, Kenny Dalglish. Not only was he an excellent player and manger, but he is also an excellent man. The way in which he supported the families of Liverpool fans who died at the Hillsborough disaster and their subsequent fight for justice makes him someone in football beyond all others. He was vilified by various people recently because of his support for Luis Suarez, but for me that showed his character of being prepared to be vilified, as he believed what Suarez had said. Whatever one thinks of that, he is a man who represents decency, loyalty and support, shown in 1989 and beyond.
What positive male models/vaguely male activities do you have?